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Two Wolves

2 Oct

An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life…

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

“One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.

“The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

“This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
“Which wolf will win?”

The old chief simply replied,
“The one you feed.”



31 Aug

Lately I have been dealing a lot with the topic of grief.  Not my own, but a lot with friends and family.  Grief has five stages, we all know them.  But when God is incorporated, it makes more sense to me.  The conversation always seems to be with God around the “bargaining” stage.  But why not talk to Him throughout the whole process?


“I know this isn’t possible!” “Everything was fine yesterday.”

This is Denial.  Trying to figure out why something has happened, and why it couldn’t possibly make sense.  Refusing to see what the situation is, and refusing to believe what is real.

Speak to God:

“I can’t work through this on my own, I don’t believe this is happening in my life right now, Lord.”


I take back my previous statement… think we talk to God during this stage as well.

“WHY God, WHY?!” “WHY would you do this to me, God, why would you forsake me?!”

This is anger.  Taking out your anger on God, other people, even yourself, because that is the most raw emotion that can be conveyed.

Speak to God:

“I know that this is building my character, Lord.  I know that you believe that this is for the best, but I am not there yet. I am angry, and hurt.”

It’s ok to feel hurt.


“If I had been there sooner, it would be different”  “If I had done something, it would be different” “I’ll never do ___ again, as long as it goes back to the way it was”

This is bargaining.  Trying to convince yourself that if you had done something different, you wouldn’t feel the way you do now.  Most people try to make a deal with God, since He is the one “in charge”.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I want things to be back the way the were, and I would do anything to make that happen.  But, I know that you know what is best for my life, and the lives of others.”


“I refuse to carry on” “I can’t live this way” “I don’t feel like doing anything”

This is depression.  I think it’s the stage that lasts the longest.  It takes hold of everything that makes you who you are, and drags it down.  Depression is so deep, a lot of people find it hard to make a path out of it.  Good news is, God knows.  He knows you are hurt.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I need your guidance.  I am so lost, and I need help.  I am hurt, I am broken, and I cant do this alone.”


“Things are the way they are, and there is nothing I can do about it.”

This is acceptance.  Some people confuse acceptance with everything being “fine” or “ok”. It isn’t.  Something very traumatic has happened to start the stages of grief, so clearly: Everything is not fine.  But accepting the things in your life is huge.  It means you are coming to terms with the lack of control of the elements that make your world what it is.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I accept that things have changed.  I understand that there is nothing I can do to change what has happened to me, but I can change how I feel about it.”




29 Aug

“I don’t pray for God to take my problems away, I pray only for God to give me the strength to go through them.”                   

To be completely honest…I have been praying for God to take my problems away all together.  I have actually been doing that for a long time!!!  I have assumed for so long that since I am no longer complaining about something, it’s because God has taken away my problem.  however, upon reflection, I see that God has just given me the strength to get through them.  My problems have not been taken away… they have most CERTAINLY stuck around.  The only thing that has changed is how big I see the problem.
Rather than ask that God take away our problem, we need to ask him to please, give us the strength to see it the way that he sees it.  Hard times build our character.
I have heard this song a few times on the radio, and it really speaks to me.
You must, you must think I’m strong, to give me what I’m going through.  Forgive me, forgive me if I’m wrong, but this looks like more than I can do. On my own.
We don’t have to do anything on our own. We will be given the strength to get through anything, and everything.

Battlefield of the Mind

25 Aug

Its pretty easy to think things that are negative.

“Am I attractive?”

“Does my significant other love me enough to be faithful?”

“Am I really good at my job?”

“Is there any point in having faith in God, when my life looks like this?”

I know I think things like this all the time.  My mind has time to wonder, and I feel like I have little no control where it goes.  Before I know it, my mood has sunken like a ship, and I have NO idea how I got there!

A few years ago I had the pleasure of being in a bible study group, where we focused on The Battlefield of the Mind, by Joyce Meyer.  It taught us that our mind is being influenced by things not just of this world, but by God, and his enemy as well.  God is planting seeds of hope and joy in our lives.  His enemy is stomping on the plants!!!

When you are thinking something negative and unjoyful, what put it there?!  Is it lovely, happy wonderful, or even productive?!  If not, then think about who put it there.   Dont let your thoughts wander to the negative, but rather stay on the path of wonderment and productiveness.

“I am a good person, because God says that I am.”

“I am gorgeous the way that God made me.”

“I have faith in the Lord, and I have faith in my husband that he loves me.”

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made!!!”



“whose art’s in heaven”

17 Aug

His art is in everything you see, and everything you don't see.

I read the funniest story of a little boy who was saying his daily prayer at dinner with his family.  When the prayer was over, he asked his mom, “why do I have to say ‘whose art’s in heaven’, when CLEARLY, Gods art is down here?!”  His mother had to explain to him that “who art in heaven” refers to where God is, not where…his art is.  But good point, Kiddo!

Gods art is down here indeed, everywhere we go.

His art is in the darkness

His art is in the light.

His art is in birth.

His art is in a family vacation at the beach.

His art is in a childs curiousity.

His art is in everything.  For we are fearfully and wonderfully made. (psalms 139).



Heavenly Father

16 Aug

When I was little, I heard Heavenly Father in church, at the dinner table, and from my Gram.  I never really thought about it.  In fact, I thought it was all one word… hev-en-leaf-farther.  Just this morning I started to think about it.  My Father in Heaven.  “Big daddy”. This made me think.

God is our parent.  Just like a mother or a father down here.  He just happens to see more from his vantage point!!  I am proud of my son when he takes a quarter and puts it in the Childrens Foundation bucket, instead of going to the gumball machine.  God is proud of us when we do something good.

I am so disappointed in Jake when he does something naughty, even when I JUST TOLD HIM not to do it.  God is disappointed in us when we do something wrong when we KNOW what is right.

And no matter what Jake does, I will always love him.  Nothing he can do will make me love him any less.  I don’t care what he looks like, how tall he gets, or what he does when he grows up.  I’m always going to love him.  God is always going to love us ,no matter what we do.  Nothing can hinder or take away that love.

So treat God like a parent.  Make him proud! Understand that nothing you can do will make him love you any less, because he made you the way you are.  We are greatly loved.




15 Aug

The bible mentions faith 365 times in the King James Version.   Must be important, don’t you think?!  Its used in several different ways, but the most common is faith through trust. When you hop in a cab, you have faith in the driver that you will not be hurt by his driving skills…or lack thereof. When you order something online, you have faith that the store will ship your order to you without damage.  When you marry someone, you have faith that they will be kind to you, and take care of you.  You have faith already!!!!  Now we just have to learn to turn that faith upwards.  Do you have faith that God is watching over you? Do you have faith that he will not put anything in your path that you can’t handle?


That is the reality of faith.  You already put your faith and trust in things on the earth.  Now you have to work on unwavering faith.  A faith that directs its energy to things in heaven.


Where do you put the majority of your faith?