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50 Things: Charity

19 Jan

At first my mind went right back to my sympathy post.

Giving to someone else = feeling sympathy for them?


generous actions or donations to aid the poor, ill, or helpless: to devote one’s life to charity.

something given to a person or persons in need; alms: She asked for work, not charity.

a charitable act or work.

a charitable fund, foundation, or institution: He left his estate to a charity.
benevolent feeling, especially toward those in need or indisfavor: She looked so poor that we fed her out of charity.
What I take from that is this: giving what you have, to someone who needs it.  Tithing is giving 10% of your income to the church, because A. Anything you make is by the grace of God. And B., because God will help you through all financial trials you may come up against while not having that 10%.  The point is to trust that God will see you though anything.
Give because you can, not because you should.
Give because you want to, not because you have to.

Liquid liner 1 2 3…

12 Jan


Liquid liner is intimidating.  I’ve heard over and over that women wont try it because it’s too severe, and its impossible to get off if you make a mistake.

Not always true!

I have found that Revlon Colorstay liquid liner is the best to start out with.  The tip is felt, and easy to use.  Though its called colorstay, I wont lie: it comes off with a q-tip and spit.  What I like about this though, is that it comes off when you wANT it to, and not when you don’t.  I make about 6 mistakes every morning, whether it be because my son bumped into me, or I decided to do a cat eye on the left, and forgot on the right.

For less than six bucks, give it a shot.

*As far as black goes, I like it.  My mom always hated when I would wear black liner because eyes aren’t black, so it doesn’t make sense.  They make purple eye liner specifically for brown eyes, people.  Eye liner (or shadow for the matter) doesn’t have to match your eye color.  It should enhance it.*



50 Things: Holding Hands

11 Jan



Husband hates PDA.  Since we have been in the military world, for whatever reason, public displays of affection make him nervous.  Every once in a while he will sneak a kiss if I say something sweet or funny.  Sometimes I get a like squeeze around my waist if I am nervous.  but the thing that means the most to me is when he grabs my hand.

Ever since we were little, my sister and I used hand holding as a way to communicate.  Take a look at that.  Remind me that I need to tell you something later. I really need you right now.  Without saying a word, we have entire conversations just through holding hands.

The first time I went to church by choice was when my best friend Jennifer invited me.  I went out of curiosity, but also to support her, as her husband was deployed.  When we said the prayer, I peeked over and saw that she was crying.  I reached over and held her hand, and gave her a squeeze.  I like to think it made her feel better to know someone cared enough to hold her if she needed it.  That day was the start of my wanting to be a Christian.

Hand holding doesn’t always have to be romantic!  It’s a way of communication, and telling someone you are there for them.  regardless of the looks I get, I will hold my sister’s hand through public.  After 6 years of being together, I will hold Husbands hand like we are in high school again.




One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.
             Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
                  In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
                       Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,
                           other times there were one set of footprints.
                                  This bothered me because I noticed
                                that during the low periods of my life,
                             when I was suffering from
                         anguish, sorrow or defeat,
                     I could see only one set of footprints.
          So I said to the Lord,
      “You promised me Lord,
         that if I followed you,
             you would walk with me always.
                   But I have noticed that during
                          the most trying periods of my life
                                 there have only been one
                                       set of footprints in the sand.
                                           Why, when I needed you most,
                                          you have not been there for me?”
                                 The Lord replied,
                          “The times when you have
                  seen only one set of footprints,
          is when I carried you.”

50 Things: Sympathy

10 Jan

When you see a homeless on the side of the road, what is your first thought?

They will only use the money I give them for alcohol.

They aren’t really homeless! People pose as homeless to get money now!

They are dangerous, and if I give them money, they will only want more!

In some cases, this may be absolutely true.  But when did we become so cynical?

If a child trips and falls, and starts to cry, our first instinct is to sympathize.  As people get older, we assume that any pain or misfortune that may befall them, they can handle it.  This isn’t always true.

We all need someone, anyone, to lean on.  Not everyone has a support system!

For a short while, imagine that everyone you encounter, needs your support and sympathy.

If everyone did this, how would the world change?



50 Things: Trust

9 Jan


We have all been hurt.  When someone says, “Why don’t you trust me?!” memories and reasons flood to your mind.  Someone hurt you, and changed your mind about people as a whole.  You created a connection with someone, and cared about them enough to put your trust in them.  Sometimes people betray that, and sometimes we break it ourselves in order to avoid being hurt.  Here is the thing:

  • The reason that you don’t trust people is not the fault of another person.  Your ability to trust, stems from your ability to forgive.

“You can only truly forgive someone when you see them for who they are, and no longer see what they have done to wrong you.”

  • Start with trusting God.  God takes care of the birds, and animals, fish and plants.  Arent you equally as important as these things?!

Trust in God with all of your heart, and lean not on your own understanding, for he will make your path straight.”

  • And finally, when you refuse to trust people… it gives you wrinkles.  I mean really, what good comes from being ugly with everyone!?

Trust God. Trust others. Forgive.



50 Things: The Holidays

28 Nov

Since being in the military lifestyle, we have come to the realization that we will never have a “normal”  holiday again.  It will not be us with our parents and siblings around the table talking about the year, or what we are thankful for.  The past few years, it has been more like us + friends and their kids + friends of friends and more friends of friends.  Chaos, food, stories, and meeting people for the first time.  We have spent Christmas in hotel rooms, and thanksgiving at friends houses, where everyone brings in their own traditions.

Normally change would freak me out.  I love tradition, and routine.  I spent 18 years having Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and all other holidays with my mom, dad, sister, and brother, grandparents, and that’s IT.

I think right along with Black Friday, cyber monday, and the day after Christmas, a lot of that doesn’t matter! as long as you are with people who you care about, and people who care about you, that’s a holiday!



50 Things: Romance

17 Nov

I’m sorry for the short intermission!!!

However, I have returned, and I am ready to write.

Continuing in the 50 Things That Really Matter series, number 33 is Romance.

If you are blessed with a significant other that gets your stomach filled with butterflies, then its relatively simple.  Romance can be anything that keeps your love alive.

Husband and I just had our five-year wedding anniversary, and we went to IHOP.  Not the most romantic place for a date, but it’s where we had our first. On our first date, we went as friends.  It was late at night, and we thought it was likely the only place that would be open.  It is where we started our journey as each others best friend.  He blew bubble in his chocolate milk, and I shot the paper wrapper off of my straw at him.  Love at first sight, yes?!

Romance doesn’t always have to be cookie-cutter-perfection.  I feel closest to Husband when we just talk over popcorn, or laugh over stupid fights.

And if you are single, romance can simply be love for self.  Having the courage to love yourself completely, and knowing everything about you is in Gods plan, now that, to me, is romantic.  It’s important to know your most precious qualities, and love them, so that others may love them too.