Archive | August, 2011

Grief

31 Aug

Lately I have been dealing a lot with the topic of grief.  Not my own, but a lot with friends and family.  Grief has five stages, we all know them.  But when God is incorporated, it makes more sense to me.  The conversation always seems to be with God around the “bargaining” stage.  But why not talk to Him throughout the whole process?

Denial

“I know this isn’t possible!” “Everything was fine yesterday.”

This is Denial.  Trying to figure out why something has happened, and why it couldn’t possibly make sense.  Refusing to see what the situation is, and refusing to believe what is real.

Speak to God:

“I can’t work through this on my own, I don’t believe this is happening in my life right now, Lord.”

Anger

I take back my previous statement… think we talk to God during this stage as well.

“WHY God, WHY?!” “WHY would you do this to me, God, why would you forsake me?!”

This is anger.  Taking out your anger on God, other people, even yourself, because that is the most raw emotion that can be conveyed.

Speak to God:

“I know that this is building my character, Lord.  I know that you believe that this is for the best, but I am not there yet. I am angry, and hurt.”

It’s ok to feel hurt.

Bargaining

“If I had been there sooner, it would be different”  “If I had done something, it would be different” “I’ll never do ___ again, as long as it goes back to the way it was”

This is bargaining.  Trying to convince yourself that if you had done something different, you wouldn’t feel the way you do now.  Most people try to make a deal with God, since He is the one “in charge”.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I want things to be back the way the were, and I would do anything to make that happen.  But, I know that you know what is best for my life, and the lives of others.”

Depression

“I refuse to carry on” “I can’t live this way” “I don’t feel like doing anything”

This is depression.  I think it’s the stage that lasts the longest.  It takes hold of everything that makes you who you are, and drags it down.  Depression is so deep, a lot of people find it hard to make a path out of it.  Good news is, God knows.  He knows you are hurt.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I need your guidance.  I am so lost, and I need help.  I am hurt, I am broken, and I cant do this alone.”

Acceptance

“Things are the way they are, and there is nothing I can do about it.”

This is acceptance.  Some people confuse acceptance with everything being “fine” or “ok”. It isn’t.  Something very traumatic has happened to start the stages of grief, so clearly: Everything is not fine.  But accepting the things in your life is huge.  It means you are coming to terms with the lack of control of the elements that make your world what it is.

Speak to God:

“Lord, I accept that things have changed.  I understand that there is nothing I can do to change what has happened to me, but I can change how I feel about it.”

Xo

Katelyn

DIY Tee shirt dress

31 Aug

How cute is this idea!!??  I am definitely going to try it today.  I am thinking some off white lace at the bottom, or dip dyeing the whole thing.

Anyone want to jump on board and try this too?!

Xo Katelyn

Wrap it up!

30 Aug

Dress up your bookcase with scrapbook paper…

Remember back in middle school when teachers would give you your school books, and ask you to go home and wrap it?  I remember!!!  I would take home my five or six school books and my mom would help me wrap them up with broke paper bags.  After they were done, the finished product would serve as a canvas for the rest of the year.  The canvas for my arts and crafts, and in-class boredom.  Well, now that we are out of school…Or not, as long as you have a bookcase full of random books, we can still cover our books.  Only now, it can be pretty!!! Scrapbook paper, wrapping paper, even wall paper, whatever moves you.  Scroll out the title on the spine so you know what it is, and you have a matching set of books!!!

Pretty, pretty, PRETTY!!!!!

XO

Katelyn

Cream Shadow

29 Aug

You know what my favorite thing is?  When my son gets a hold of one of my eye shadow palettes and shakes it all about.  The shadow breaks up, makes a mess in the case, and joy of joys!  My lovely eye shadow compact is now crumbly and destroyed.  Rather than throw it away, I made something new out of it!!!

Crush up the eye shadow until its powdery, and all the large pieces are gone.  Add a few drops of eye cream, and mix together, until the consistency is creamy and thick.

Put the mixture in a small jar, or cosmetics pot.  You can find these jars at any art store, in storage supplies.  Most people use them to hold glitter or scrapbook bits.

XO

Katelyn

 

Strength

29 Aug

“I don’t pray for God to take my problems away, I pray only for God to give me the strength to go through them.”                   

To be completely honest…I have been praying for God to take my problems away all together.  I have actually been doing that for a long time!!!  I have assumed for so long that since I am no longer complaining about something, it’s because God has taken away my problem.  however, upon reflection, I see that God has just given me the strength to get through them.  My problems have not been taken away… they have most CERTAINLY stuck around.  The only thing that has changed is how big I see the problem.
Rather than ask that God take away our problem, we need to ask him to please, give us the strength to see it the way that he sees it.  Hard times build our character.
I have heard this song a few times on the radio, and it really speaks to me.
You must, you must think I’m strong, to give me what I’m going through.  Forgive me, forgive me if I’m wrong, but this looks like more than I can do. On my own.
We don’t have to do anything on our own. We will be given the strength to get through anything, and everything.
Xo
Katelyn

Mickey Mouse Outhouse

26 Aug

My sons bathroom also happens to be the spare bathroom.  Finding a theme for that little potty has become a real problem for my decorative brain.  I have had to think of a theme that would be cute for my son (Oh joy, fun potty!), but also be appropriate for guests (I can’t find the strength to take a shower in a buzz lightyear bathroom)

package of 3 canvas, 5.99, Michaels Craftstore

So we went with Mickey Mouse.  Not a cartoonish type, but more of just the classic mickey head shape, and classic colors.  Black, White, Red and Yellow.

black shower curtain, 9.99 walmart.com

mickey bathrug, 19.99, target.com

colored towels, 3.99 each, target.com. mickey face cloths, set of 6, 9.99, target.com

I had planned to use the red toilet seat cover on the actual toilet seat…however, the seat is an odd shape, so I just used it to cover the back of the potty.

Mickey head frame, 4.99, disneystore.com

The theme works for my Son, who LOVES Mickey Mouse, and the colors are still appropriate for guests. Besides, everyone loves Disney. If someone didn’t love Disney, they wouldn’t be allowed to stay at my home anyways!!!

Xo

Katelyn

Battlefield of the Mind

25 Aug

Its pretty easy to think things that are negative.

“Am I attractive?”

“Does my significant other love me enough to be faithful?”

“Am I really good at my job?”

“Is there any point in having faith in God, when my life looks like this?”

I know I think things like this all the time.  My mind has time to wonder, and I feel like I have little no control where it goes.  Before I know it, my mood has sunken like a ship, and I have NO idea how I got there!

A few years ago I had the pleasure of being in a bible study group, where we focused on The Battlefield of the Mind, by Joyce Meyer.  It taught us that our mind is being influenced by things not just of this world, but by God, and his enemy as well.  God is planting seeds of hope and joy in our lives.  His enemy is stomping on the plants!!!

When you are thinking something negative and unjoyful, what put it there?!  Is it lovely, happy wonderful, or even productive?!  If not, then think about who put it there.   Dont let your thoughts wander to the negative, but rather stay on the path of wonderment and productiveness.

“I am a good person, because God says that I am.”

“I am gorgeous the way that God made me.”

“I have faith in the Lord, and I have faith in my husband that he loves me.”

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made!!!”

Xo

Katelyn